There has been a lot of talk about creating safer spaces. I started this series as a sort of informal how-to, simply garnered from my own thinky-thoughts and thousands of other posts and discussions about these matters. I think kink communities are, currently, irreparably broken. I think that FetLife’s culture of silence and excuse and enable, when it comes to predators and violators, perpetuates that brokenness. In short, I think we’re doing it wrong, and it’s time to start over, and do it better. I hope that, perhaps, some folks can use parts of these posts as templates. These were originally posted on FetLife, beginning in July of 2014.
Four or five years ago, there weren’t an awful lot of conversations going on about consent, about predators, about abuse. As you know, if you’re reading this, much has changed. I doubt there are many communities that haven’t felt…
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